When you start looking for ways to be confident, you'll probably end up finding tons of different tips and tricks. Some of them work more, some less. However, there's lots of content that suggests you to rather fake it or focus on little details. Details that will help but won't create rock-hard core confidence.
Today, I'd like to share with you five tips to be confident that actually work. I've spent years improving my confidence and these tips are something that have had a massive impact. Now, I'd love to share these battle-tested methods with you.
1 Take care of the "little things"
When I say little things I mean daily, little tasks and self-care activities that you'll face. Every little thing like skipping the Mc Donalds, keeping your apartment clean, and avoiding too much scrolling in social media.
These things may seem irrelevant but hear me out. If you neglect one of them, neglecting another one becomes easier and easier. And after a while, you've ignored your daily tasks and spent hours of scrolling celebrity gossips on social media.
However, if you commit to taking care of the simplest things like making your bed, you'll gain a small sense of pride and an urge to move to another task. This creates a positive, self-amplifying spiral that makes you a person with standards.
When you take care of the little things, that momentum will bleed to the bigger things like working on your career and exercising. I mean, it's way easier to be confident when you've finished your tasks in a clean apartment and haven't spent hours on Instagram, etc.
2 Be confident with martial arts
Martial arts are a phenomenal way to boost your confidence and life in general. I've spent many years practicing them and they've been nothing but good.
When you know that you'll have the skills to defend yourself, it's easier to be confident in social situations. Fights rarely happen (which is good), but the underlying belief of your capabilities is always there.
On top of that, martial arts teach you many valuable, confidence-building skills. Skills and abilities like physical fitness, mental toughness, discipline, and self-esteem.
If you're looking for a new hobby, consider trying martial arts. The best ones in my opinion are MMA, Kickboxing, Muay Thai, and Ju-Jitsu.
3 People see you how you see yourself
One thing that's notorious for affecting confidence is your flaws and how other people see you. I've seen people trying to fix this, but they're approaching the problem from the wrong perspective. You should never try to impress others or try to prove yourself.
See, here's the fact: people see you how you see yourself. If you accept your flaws like they're not a big deal, they will sense your confidence and respect you more.
Realizing this helps you to be confident and here's why: When you know this, you can carry out yourself with dignity, knowing that it's ok to have flaws, and let that inner confidence reflect from you. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes.
Let's say something you dislike about yourself comes up in a conversation. You can just admit it like it's not a big deal and let that become your reality. When you master this technique, you'll go through life with ease and confidence.
4 Learn to set boundaries
A great way to train your confidence is to set boundaries in different areas of life. This means being crystal clear about what you tolerate from your friends, co-workers, dating partners, or anyone.
Sometimes we end up in situations where someone treats us unfairly, but calling it out would cause a conflict. This can be a friend who starts to complain when you've decided to go to the gym instead of hanging out. Or maybe a dating partner who tries to manipulate you by asking to pay for every date. I guess you got the point.
However, you'll have to learn to set boundaries. If you've decided to go to the gym, go there regardless of your friend's complaints. If someone in your dating life is toxic, either tell them to change or kick them out of your life.
If you sacrifice your boundaries, two things will happen. Firstly, your self-esteem suffers because you try to please everybody. Secondly, others will sense your weakness and maybe even start using you.
But if you stay stubborn and push through the conflict, you'll find yourself being more confident and respected in the long run. So, remember to respect your boundaries, my friend.
5 Form a sense of purpose
Purpose means a certain goal that you pursue constantly in your life. If you don't have one yet, now it's a good time to figure it out. It can be anything from building a billion-dollar company to scoring A on your next test.
This purpose is good if it fills the two following criteria:
See, when you form a sense of purpose that puts fire in your belly, you start feeling like you're doing something remarkable on this planet. You're on your own path and mission. This causes every little inconvenience to feel irrelevant and will drastically boost your confidence.
If you get rejected, someone speaks poorly about you, or something like that, so what? You got better things to do. A sense of purpose that's formed properly will put away all the small inconveniences that cause insecurity.
Again, this can be any goal as long as it inspires you, and it can change. So, pick something that feels meaningful and start executing. You don't have to have it all figured out yet. The most important thing is to take action.
With all this said, I hope you enjoyed this post. The confidence is there for you to take.
Veikko Arvonen is a blogger with a burning passion for self-development. He's the author of Maxed Out 20s, where he shares how you can become more confident, respected, attractive, and happier. Visit his blog to learn more and get your free confidence ebook!
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Too often, as we move through our daily lives, we pack more than we need — and I’m referring to mental baggage. No matter where we’re going or what we’re doing, we allow our minds to run rampant and never stop. Recent research shows that humans tally more than 6,000 thoughts each day. Those thousands of thoughts are an irrefutable consequence of our society’s obsessive need to be busy and distracted.
Yet if we don’t stop, even occasionally, from our obsessive mental planning, rehashing and cataloguing, we become disconnected and removed from a source greater than us. Instead of busily looking for answers outside of ourselves, and relying on distractions, stimulants, materialism and other external influences that we believe will give us meaning, we all have the ability to become more awake, present and aware — and in our awareness, to transcend limited thoughts and beliefs and raise our consciousness.
Practicing Mindfulness is a way to reign in the random thoughts swirling through our minds. It holds us in present moment awareness. As we stay focused on the present, we’re able to look more deeply into what we’re actually feeling in that moment. Mindfulness opens our minds so that we can see with total awareness.
By attaining this state of complete awareness, we can remain observant of our thoughts and feelings with acceptance and non-judgment. This is when we’re in a pure state of mind, and it’s in this state that we can guide ourselves wisely. With more heightened awareness, we can participate in life as grounded, sensitive human beings. This means that everything we do is done with a conscious awareness of how we’re doing it. Therefore, we become more thoughtful, kind, compassionate, sensitive, creative and attuned.
The challenge is training our minds to stop — really stop. The mind is prone to wander out of the present moment. But the more we train it to stay in the present and the more we move away from the busy-ness in our heads, the better we become at utilizing Mindfulness to achieve higher-order thinking skills.
Put these principles into practice to live more consciously:
1. Strengthen your present-moment awareness muscle. The more present you are, the more aware you are, and the more aware you are, the more present you are. It keeps evolving from there. When practiced consistently, Mindfulness can sharpen your awareness so that you can see beyond what lies on the surface.
2. Surrender your ego-driven self. Learning to value slowing down and quieting the mind means that you must refrain from manipulating the world, or your thoughts about your world, to feed your ego. Get out of your own way and out from under the drama you create. Don’t let your “small self ” run the show. Aspire to heighten your awareness, raise your consciousness and continue on the path of spiritual development with the veils of falseness lifting one by one.
3. Feed your spirit. When you feel a type of emptiness, or ennui, that’s your spirit telling you something, something extremely important. But, if instead of going deeper within to find out what’s troubling your spirit, you choose a type of distraction or a way to anesthetize yourself, you aren’t tending to your spirit. Feeding your spirit can mean anything from meditating, practicing yoga, sitting in contemplation, taking a walk in nature, gardening, playing with a pet, making love, painting, cooking, serving someone in need or moving to music.
4. Slow down to engage in more conscious knowing. Mindfulness is a mental state of being conscious and aware. It helps you to find union in reality, free of illusion. Don’t you want to know what this life, this reality, truly is? It can’t possibly be just what’s on the surface. Remaining on the exterior is like living outside of a magnificent palace and never getting to go inside.
5. Open yourself to a sense of oneness. As you begin to explore life beyond the surface, you soon begin to know there is so much more to see and know. You are part of the collective, the universe, the cosmos, the oneness and the supreme consciousness that breathes life into us all. Consciously become aligned with it. In this way, Mindfulness can lead us down a mystical path. If you keep your mind open and your thoughts illumined, truths will be known to you when you are ready to know them.
If you practice Mindfulness, stay in present moment awareness, commit to self-surrender, and lift the veils of falsehood, you will feel the shift. And with your own shift in consciousness, you help to raise the consciousness of the planet.
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Ora Nadrich is a pioneering Mindfulness expert, international keynote speaker and coach, and the founder and president of the Institute for Transformational Thinking. A sought-after expert in the fields of Mindfulness, transformational thinking and self-discovery, she is the author of Says Who? How One Simple Question Can Change the Way You Think Forever, and Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity, named “one of the 100 Best Mindfulness Books of All Time” by BookAuthority. Her new book is Mindfulness and Mysticism: Connecting Present Moment Awareness with Higher States of Consciousness (IFTT, Nov. 11, 2021). Learn more at oranadrich.com.
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